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Ante -Thanatos care: a holistic approach for preparing for the end of life by Dr Craig Brown

Dr Craig Brown, our dear friend and scientific and medical advisor to the Janki foundation, has recently been diagnosed with a terminal illness. Our loving thoughts and healing wishes are with him. He has generously allowed us to publish his own thoughts on being in this position which we are sharing below:

 

(Greek Thanatos= gentle death)

Ante -Thanatos care is in many ways similar to ante-natal care. It is a preparation for a transformation; one a new life and the other a departing life.  Both benefit from a holistic approach that includes conventional and self-care measures.

I felt I had made adequate preparation for my own ante-Thanatos care by making a will, delegating a power of attorney, putting my financial affairs in order and leaving instructions of my various contacts and passwords on my computer. Over the years I had read much around the subject of death and dying, and attended conferences and run workshops on the subject.

On a hiking holiday two months ago with some old university friends I developed an indigestion pain.  After several weeks when it did not settle I made an appointment with my General Practitioner to get some medication.  She felt a mass in my upper abdomen and after investigations, including scans and a biopsy I was diagnosed with a malignant melanoma with widespread secondaries in the liver, chest and pelvis.  It was one month from being fit and healthy to a progressive jaundice.  It was a shock to me and my family and my friends.

My initial fear was that I would deteriorate quickly and that I would not have the time or capacity to prepare myself on all levels of my being: physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, socially and environmentally.

My immediate physical problem was that I was not able to drink enough fluids and had become dehydrated and needed intravenous fluids to correct that and to drink more myself. I had been taking pain killers as required which was not really controlling the pain.  With advice from the community hospice team I started a regime that controlled the pain and I physically began to feel better.

As a result of my physical improvement, I became mentally clearer and was able to work through some urgent tasks such as cancelling meetings and informing people of my illness.  Emotionally I noticed I was in a dark place after being battered by one piece of bad news after another.  It was not only me, but family and friends had been thrown off balance too.  I needed to realise that I was not responsible for how they felt- although witnessing that was particularly upsetting- but if I began to lift myself it would help them.  So though the cloud of darkness I began to perceive a point of light which when focused upon, slowly grew.

Spiritually I know that it is important to free one self, which involves forgiveness and loosening attachments. In recent years following my wife’s death I have been practising letting go of resentment. I feel I have made some progress as I do not really feel any anger in the situation.  Generally I have not had a great attachment to material goods, but will be disappointed I will never see my newly planted wild flower beds, or able to go on the holidays I had planned.

Letting go of people is not so easy.  I have this picture in my mind of standing on the stern of a liner as it leaves port waving to all my family and friends, knowing that I will never see, talk to, or touch them again, yet we will remain connected by our hearts in love.

The practice of meditation for me is connecting with my own inner peace and also with the universal peace and love.  It is central in my preparation for my dying and transition.  I do not know what is next, but am curious.

I have never been very good at receiving compliments, but the emails, letters of support and love, receiving of healing and good wishes- many very personal- have been a great condolence.  When I am quiet in bed I think of all the kindness and healing sent my way, and it filling my heart and surrounding me.

Socially it is good to have the time to share memories with friends and family and be grateful for such a fortunate and full life in which I have had the opportunity to serve and love.  Yet in the time that is left I am fortunate to make the space I need for myself to prepare and find that deep inner peace.

Finally, I would like an environment that is peaceful and calm where I am allowed to let go.

I am still here

I am still here

the date postponed

uncertain and waiting

 

grateful for the time

to share things

not usually said

 

To receive such kindness

to be loved

to be alive

 

Life is precious

death is soon

my soul is eternal

by Dr Craig Brown

4 Comments

  1. Carolyn Goodman on February 29, 2020 at 4:34 pm

    Beautiful Craig just stunning x

  2. Lyon Whyte on March 1, 2020 at 11:50 am

    Craig was my GP for many years and a totally wonderful Soul, he made me look at why I had become ill or manifested whatever ailment and that there was a meaning behind it to explore.. it set me off on new discoveries of the true self and I shall always be grateful. He has always shared his knowledge and given of himself.. I guess his work is to be continued ‘elsewhere’.. I feel he must certainly need a rest from earthly matters.. what an example of a life used well.. I send much much love to him, gratitude and peace and blessings and courage also to his friends and family x

  3. David Wheeler on March 1, 2020 at 7:12 pm

    Inspiring reflection and poems on “ante-Thanatos” by Craig Brown. How prepared are any of us for death? Yet prepare we must for our own parting and whatever life is left to us. It is, after all, a necessary part of life. May love and forgiveness be a big part of it.

  4. Stewart Tindal on April 6, 2020 at 5:29 pm

    So sad, today is Craig’s funeral .My wife and I should have been there to support the family and pay our respects to a wonderful man but Covid 19 has prevented that.
    Craig was one of our oldest and best friends. We will always remember Craig and his late wife Elaine .Fond memories of holidays in France with both our families plus many visits to their lovely home in East Preston .
    Finally our thoughts are with the family and all Craig’s grandchildren..

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